Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Almost 2 1/2 years

So I'm not normally so personal on my blog, but I felt impressed to share my story since maybe someone out there is struggling as well.

As most of you probably know Josh and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 2 1/2 years now. We both felt prompted to start trying at the same time and if we would have become pregnant the first month, we would have had a baby just before our 2 year anniversary. I thought it was perfect because then we would have 2 great years alone together and then be able to start bringing children into our lives.

After a year of trying we went to a doctor to see what was going on. We've done MULTIPLE tests over the course of the last year and so far everything has come back normal. Once everything comes back normal and doctors don't see a reason why you're not getting pregnant, if you have the symptoms, they assume you have endometriosis. So I went in for surgery in July of last year to have this fixed. They did the surgery, diagnosed me with endometriosis and fixed as much as they could. (If you don't know what it is, it's not serious, just makes it difficult to get pregnant and it's treatable).

Then the doctors said to wait 6 months after the surgery and if we're still not pregnant to come back. So I did. I went back last week. I went to a new doctor because we've moved. He's a really great doctor and I read a lot of reviews online and he actually specializes in infertility and endometriosis, which is perfect for me. So he told us of one more test that I hadn't heard of before that we can do. I'll actually get tested for it in a couple weeks and if this comes back normal... it's on to artifical insemination.

To be quite honest, I'm excited about that. He said the chances are really good for getting pregnant once we do it. Not only that, but he will give me fertility pills during that process which will increase our chances of multiples as well! We really want multiples, so that would awesome. Either way of course, we'd be ecstatic just to be able to have a baby.

Now, I'm a firm believer of everything happens for a reason and I know this is part of His plan, so for awhile I was sad and discouraged, but now I know it's just not the right time. I'd rather have it happen when it's supposed to and not just because I want it to. I'm happy to have Josh be so amazing and supportive and loving during all of this. He's so positive too and I love that. I know we'll be able to have kids, it's just a matter of when. And we've been able to have even more time to spend together! Which also means we've been lucky to be able to do a lot of fun things that probably wouldn't have happened if we did have a baby. So, looks like there's another trip in our future!

Anyways, I just felt like sharing, and this was a long post, but if anyone else is going through something similiar and needs to talk... I'm always here :)

15 comments:

Katie May said...

Tiffany, I am so sorry that you've had to go through all of this. That was very brave of you to write about this trial and I hope and I'm sure you'll help people in ways that you may not even know.

Good luck with this next round of tests!

Steph @ somewhatsimple said...

Tiffy, you are going to be a great mom! If there is one thing you need to be a mom, its patience, and isnt this trial a test of patience?!? I only struggled for a year and a half, so I know I cant relate completely, but just know you are not alone and if you ever need to talk, call me! Who knows, maybe you will struggle this time around and then get pregnant on accident 9 months later like I did! (though I wouldnt wish that on anyone!!!)

It is tough, especially when you are around others who are fertile mertile, but our family prays for you and Josh every night and even Leah remembers to "Bless Aunt Tiffy to have a baby soon" - it will happen, I have faith in that!

Here is a quote I was given when I was super discouraged on the matter:

"Courage is not always a roar. Sometimes it is the quiet voice at the end of the day that whispers 'I will try again tomorrow.'"

You are awesome Tiff! Hang in there. We are all cheering for you!

Auna Leigh said...

Keep up the faith! Enjoy each other! I know I can't relate, but remember we are all praying for our families. They just differ a bit. Anyways, remember you will be a mom for eternity! ;) Just be an amazing Tiff for now! Love you cous!

Unknown said...

Tiff good luck. I kinda know how you're feeling. We tried for a year and a half until we got pregnant. But we never had to do fertility stuff.

Just know that you are one of the best people I know and you will be a fabulous mom, no matter when it happens! And there's nothing better!

Love you and I know everything will work out!

Megan said...

Hey Tiff! I'm glad to hear you have a new dr. who specializes in this kind of stuff! I bet it's neat to look back at your lives together and see all the things that lead you and Josh to live where you are now, and too this specific doctor! It sounds like he'll be very helpful, and I'm sure the Lord had a hand in leading you to him. I can't wait for you guys to be parents, you are both so cute with kids and I know you will be an amazing Mom and Dad! We pray for you every night (even Kate in her prayers, well, we still say them for her, but you know what I mean)! That would be so neat if you had multiples, just try to keep it under 8, so you don't end up like that crazy lady! We love you guys and please know we are here for you and anything you need!

AdamAndMelaine said...

Tiffany, you're amazing. Plain and simple.

I know I can't totally relate, but we struggled for over a year and I remember it being so frustrating to not understand!

I hope these new tests and procedures work well. You will be such a fantastic mom!

Laura said...

What a blessing to have find a doctor that specializes in what you need. I hope this next test is helpful. Good luck with everything.

Becca said...

Good things are in your future Tiff! And I couldn't wish the blessing of children for anyone more deserving! I just feel lucky to be so close to you and I can't wait to be your favorite baby sitter!!! It will happy!!! It will!

Me and My Boys said...

Tiff I had no idea you guys had been trying so long. There are a couple of ladies in our ward that have the same problem, as well as some of our friends, and a number of them are pregnant now. Hope everything goes great and according to the Lords plan, well pray for you guys. Good Luck! Love ya!

Its All Good Ya'll said...

Hey, I know I don't understand what you are going through but I can empathise. I am sorry this is one of your challenges in life but what a blessing to make you and your husband closer than ever. Robbie and Kara had a really hard time getting pregnant too. In fact they took a pregnancy test the day they were suppose to start fertility and found out they were pregnant, and now they are expecting their second. How lucky you are to have such a great husband and testimony to get you through this, you are great example!

It was good to hear from you!
Love you, please keep us updated!

JEREMY AND SARAHLYNN said...

Tiffany, thanks for sharing your experiences with us. You are a great example of faith and patience. Getting pregnant, as we are starting to realize, really is a miracle and it is all in the Lord's timing.

the man said...

Tiff, thanks for sharing, though I can't completely understand what you're going through, I know it'll all work out in the end. You and Josh are going to be great parents, and hopefully you'll be the newest "octomom" on the block... haha! ok, maybe not 8, but twins would be cool!

Toni S. Cook said...

Tiff,
Several people in my family have gone through this lately and I can only imagine how frustrating it must be. I definitely agree with you though, everything happens when it is supposed to. You'll be in our prayers and I hope the next stage goes smoothly! You should check out my cousins blog-- trulyandshane.blogspot.com, they had some really great doctors here in utah and now they have two beautiful baby girls!

Take care, and thanks for sharing.

Amy and Tyson said...

I just know there are sweet babies waiting to come to you and josh..you are going to be awesome parents. I know this is a trial but you and both very strong patient people. I am glad you found a great doctor. Good luck on the next tests. I love you guys!

Connie Schoo said...

Hey Tiff..I just got caught up on your Blog...I'm feeling sad right now. I had no idea what you two have been going through. Please know that we love you both and will keep you in our thoughts.

Hugs and Kisses to you and Josh...